Gaslighting 

I've just seen this, a tweet where Ghosting is referred to as a form of gaslighting, and it's getting to me.

Gaslighting is a form of abuse that, used enough, can have real and severe lasting consequences.

Ghosting is the immediate and total severing a relationship, which you might not like and may find difficult to deal with, but you also have no automatic right to people's time or attention.

Misrepresentation of gaslighting is happening a LOT lately.

Gaslighting 

Things you don't like, find insulting or disrespectful, things which are hurtful or when someone has a perception of a situation that is different to your own... These are things I've seen described as such and that's not it. This is not gaslighting.

Gaslighting is to deliberately, maliciously misrepresent reality.

Having lasting psychological problems from not having a fixed grasp on reality growing up, because of gaslighting, it's hard not to be annoyed by it.

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Gaslighting, abuse (personal) 

I was lied to about things that happened to me throughout my childhood.
I was told lies were true, things that happened never did, things that didn't happen did, that clear and absolute truths were lies. It could be immediately after, days, weeks, months or years. Sometimes mistruths even conflicted.

I have no idea how many of my memories are real, how many are completely made up, what things were said to or about me, what my familial relationships were like.

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Gaslighting, abuse (personal) 

It's an extreme example but that's what gaslighting is and does. It's deliberately fucking with a person's perception of reality.

Not seeing eye to eye with someone, an abrupt relationship breakdown, or feeling slighted, those are far, far from the same thing.

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Gaslighting, abuse (personal) 

@sophia I'm sorry you had to endure that. Gaslighting is very harmful. I got my share of that and still suffer from that.

Gaslighting, abuse (personal) 

@AzureKingfisher solidarity, I'm so sorry you had it too

Gaslighting, abuse (personal) 

@sophia I still don't know what feelings I have and when I'm exaggerating.

Gaslighting, abuse (personal) 

@AzureKingfisher I find it really hard to measure the same thing.

I find myself questioning stuff a lot to ensure I've got it right, seek out context to ground myself in things, and having to firmly correct people when they jokingly misrepresenting things.

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Gaslighting, abuse (personal) 

@sophia in my case it was luckily not about outer facts that much but about my feelings, my reactions and my abusers actions. He needed me to think I was the bad part and I exaggerated and made things up.

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